Step 10

With Step 10, I try to make a daily habit of self-reflection and quickly resolve mistakes I make as soon as possible. I’ve found a great benefit to me to honestly examine and critique my behaviors and make restitution as soon as possible. No matter how much I’ve changed and grown as I work the 12-Step program, I still make a lot of mistakes; I am human. Step 10 spot check inventories offer me a way to monitor my attitudes and behaviors and make amends on an ongoing basis. I try to reflect on the part I play in difficult situations and respond in a more constructive manner. I’ve become more thoughtful choosing my words with others in an attempt to avoid confrontations as a result. The more I learn to live in harmony with other people, the more I realize the value of maintaining and improving all my relationships. I write about every day in my ongoing journal about different situations in my life, including struggles and accomplishments. Usually, my writings just read like a diary, but when I make mistakes or get involved in conflicts, I write about them in detail. I often discuss these incidents with my sponsor and try to improve my character. This helps me sort out problem areas and navigate more smoothly through relationships and decisions in my life. I need to admit my wrongs and make amends for any misdeeds to anyone I’ve harmed as soon as possible. This practice has helped me sort out my hurt feelings and resentments and hopefully become more mature. Step 10 helps me adjust my behaviors so hurt feelings don’t pile up and linger.